For much of my life, I measured my worth by how much I could give to others. I prided myself on being the dependable one, the fixer, the person who made sure everyone else’s needs were met—often at the expense of my own. My calendar was full, my energy was drained, and my identity became a patchwork of what others expected of me.
But as I stepped into my 30s, especially after navigating life changes like divorce and starting over, I began to ask myself: What would my life look like if I put myself first? That question became the catalyst for the transformation I’m sharing today. As I approach 2025, I’m fully committed to centering myself, unapologetically, intentionally, and with purpose. Here’s how I’m doing it—and how you can, too.
1. Building Boundaries Like a Boss
In the past, saying "no" felt selfish. I worried about disappointing others or missing out. But in 2025, I’m embracing "no" as a complete sentence.
Setting boundaries doesn’t just protect our time—it reclaims our energy. I’ve started to:
- Turn Off People-Pleasing: Not every request or invitation needs an explanation. If it doesn’t align with my goals or bring me joy, I politely decline.
- Designate "Me Time": I’ve blocked out non-negotiable time for myself each week, whether it’s for a solo wine date, a luxury skincare session, or journaling.
Takeaway: Boundaries aren’t walls; they’re filters for living intentionally.
2. Creating Joyful Rituals
2025 is all about finding joy in the small, everyday moments. For me, this means turning routine tasks into intentional rituals. Instead of rushing through life, I’m pausing to truly savor it.
- Morning Luxury Moments: My day starts with a rich skincare routine and my favorite playlist. I’ve turned “getting ready” into an act of self-love.
- Wine Nights with Myself: I pour a glass of something bold, light a candle, and think about what I’m grateful for. It’s not just wine—it’s me time in a glass.
- Celebrating Solo Wins: Whether it’s landing a new brand partnership or simply sticking to my workout goals, I celebrate myself unapologetically.
Takeaway: Joy doesn’t just find you; you create it.
3. Investing in Myself First
For years, I poured my resources into others without hesitation. Now, I’m learning that the best investment I can make is in my own growth and happiness.
Here’s how I’m prioritizing myself in 2025:
- Education: Whether it’s another wine course to deepen my expertise or workshops on entrepreneurship, I’m committing to lifelong learning.
- Wellness: Regular chiropractor visits, massages, and maintaining my fitness routine aren’t indulgences—they’re necessities for staying my best self.
- Luxury as Self-Care: From high-quality skincare products to investing in beautiful travel experiences, I’m unapologetically choosing luxury in ways that enhance my well-being.
Takeaway: Pour into yourself first, and watch everything else flourish.
4. Aligning My Goals with My Values
One of the biggest shifts I’ve made is ensuring that every goal I set aligns with my values and vision for my life. In 2025, my mantra is “If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.”
- Career Goals: Every brand partnership and project I take on must reflect my passion for empowering women and curating a luxurious, beautiful life.
- Financial Goals: Saving an additional $10-20K by year-end and living below my means aren’t just about wealth—they’re about building freedom and security for my future.
- Community Building: Growing my audience to 10,000 isn’t just a numbers game. It’s about creating a space where women feel inspired, valued, and supported.
Takeaway: When your goals reflect your values, every achievement feels more meaningful.
5. Embracing the Art of Letting Go
2025 is also about releasing what no longer serves me: expectations, relationships, or habits that keep me stuck in old patterns.
- Decluttering Relationships: If it’s draining, it’s not staying. I’m surrounding myself with people who celebrate my growth instead of questioning it.
- Shedding Guilt: The guilt of putting myself first? Gone. I’m done apologizing for choosing what makes me happy.
- Saying Goodbye to Perfectionism: Progress over perfection is my new mantra. I’m giving myself permission to try, fail, and learn without pressure.
Takeaway: Letting go of the old creates space for the new.
How You Can Start Centering Yourself
If my journey resonates with you, here’s how you can start centering yourself in 2025:
- Ask Yourself What You Want: Not what others want from you—what you want.
- Create One Intentional Ritual: Start small, whether it’s 10 minutes of journaling or a weekly coffee date with yourself.
- Set One Boundary This Week: It could be saying no to an invitation or limiting how much time you spend on your phone.
- Celebrate Small Wins: Treat yourself, even for the tiniest accomplishments, and see how it boosts your mindset.
Final Thoughts
2025 is my year to fully embrace myself, my goals, and my joy. Everything I used to do was for others—but now, I’m rewriting that script. Centering yourself isn’t selfish; it’s essential. Because when you’re living a life that lights you up, you inspire others to do the same.
Here’s to living, laughing, and luxuriating—on our own terms. ✨
What’s one thing you’re doing to center yourself in 2025? Share it in the comments—I’d love to hear your journey.